T'challa articles
-
Drake and Kendrick Lamar don’t get that women’s pain isn’t a punchline
The rappers’ fiery diss-battle has raised allegations of domestic violence and sex abuse – but for the wrong reasonsDrake and Kendrick Lamar have been battling it out for days in a vicious diss-track feud, but what started out as a sparring of wits between two of the world’s biggest rappers has quickly devolved into an excruciating game of who can expose the most damning thing about the other.On his songs Meet the Grahams and Not Like Us, Lamar addresses Drake’s well-documented history of...
-
We all want to cut out the bad parts of ourselves. It won’t work, and it won’t make us happier
Trauma, vulnerability, dependency like it or not, we can’t just wish them awayWhen I was a little girl, I cried a lot. I used to wish ferociously that I was not such a crybaby. I remember the shame so well. Sitting on my bed on a Sunday evening, hot-cheeked and furious with my tears, holding on to the thought that when I was a grownup, I would never cry. I would be a strong, confident and capable woman, and I would never again feel like a sobbing little girl who doesn’t want to go to school...
-
I’m getting married but my father isn’t invited. How can I ensure he doesn’t crash the wedding?
You can’t cordon off every weird dynamic on the big day, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. But you can be clear you won’t accept trespasses without consequenceGet our weekend culture and lifestyle emailI am getting married next year. For various reasons, including his treatment of me and my siblings, I do not want my father at my wedding. If he is there he will ruin the day by shouting at me for some perceived transgression. He holds grudges like no one else I’ve ever met and he...